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MEN ARE LIGHT BULBS…WOMEN ARE ELECTRIC IRONS…

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MEN ARE LIKE LIGHT BULBS, WOMEN ARE LIKE ELECTRIC IRONS

As we all know, marriage is not a destination but a life-long journey. I’ve read this book and I want to share with you some excerpts from it! Read on and try to keep these points in mind to understand your partner more! 🙂
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CHAPTER THIRTY-TWO

CHOOSING TO UNDERSTAND SEXUAL DIFFERENCES

Sexually, men and women are different. And anatomy is only a small part of that difference. We are diverse in our approaches, our responses, and what it means to us. Unless we understand and adjust to these variances, we are in trouble.
Here are some distinctives:
* To a man, sex is a delightful intermission in the drama; to a woman, it is inexorably woven into the fabric of the whole.
* The male sex drive is generated by physical needs, accompanied by emotional needs; a woman’s drive stems from emotional needs, along with physical needs.
* A man thinks, How often? A woman ponders, How?
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A man’s thought is reduced to the moment; a woman’s to what is produced by the moment. (During intercourse, a man rarely thinks of the act resulting in a baby, while this may be much on a woman’s mind.)
* A man is quick to react to stimulation; a woman, comparatively slow to react, needs to be stimulated.
* A man is primarily stimulated by one of his senses–sight; a woman is stimulated by all five plus one–touch, hearing, sight, taste, and smell. (This difference is important. A number of wives have confided to Carole and me that they were unable to respond physically to their husbands because they smelled. Perspiration, stale smoke, and bad breath can all inhibit a woman’s enjoyment of sex. It is also true that men can be turned off by unpleasant smells, but women seem to be more careful about such things.) The extra “plus one” is tenderness.
To summarize with an illustration: A man is like an electric light bulb–you flip the switch and on he goes. A woman is more like an electric iron–you flip a switch and it takes a little more time to warm up. When you turn it off, it takes a bit of time to cool off too. Now if you don’t remember any of the other differences, please remember that one. It is very important in learning to be a lover. And men need to learn to be lovers if they are to satisfy the needs of their wives.
SOURCE:
From the Christian guidebook: MARRIAGE TAKES MORE THAN LOVE by Jack and Carole Mayhall (1996)
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Why Men Can Only Do One Thing At A Time And Women Never Stop Talking

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How many times have we heard that “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”? I’ve read this great book about the differences of a Man and a Woman. The couple who authored this funny and yet very informative book shares with us some points that make our heads ache when we don’t know how to handle our partner, I just want you to see the introduction of this book to give you an idea of what this is all about! 🙂

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INTRODUCTION

Men and women are different. Not better or worse – just different. About the only thing they have in common is that they belong to the same species. They live in different worlds, with different values and according to quite different set of rules. Everyone knows this, but very few people, particularly men, are willing to admit it. Look at the evidence. Around 50% of marriages end in divorce in Western countires and most serious relationships stop short of becoming long-term. Men and women of every culture, creed and hue constantly argue over their partners’ opinions, behaviour, attitudes and beliefs.

When a man goes to a toilet, he usually goes for one reason and one reason only. Women use toilets as social lounges and therapy rooms. Women who go to a toilet as strangers can come out best friends. But everyone would be instantly suspicious of the man who called out, “Hey Frank, I’m going to the toilet. You wanna come with me?”

Men dominate TV remote controls and flick through the channels; women don’t mind watching the commercials. Under pressure, men drink alcohol and invade other countries; women eat chocolate and go shopping.

Women criticise men for being insensitive, uncaring, not listening, not talking, not giving enough love, not being committed to relationships, wanting to have sex rather than make love and leaving the toilet seat up.

Men criticise women about their driving, for turning maps upside down, for their lack of a sense of direction, for talking too much, for not initiating sex often enough and for leaving the toilet seat down.

Men can never find a pair of socks but their CDs are in alphabetical order. Women can always find the missing set of car keys, but rarely the most direct route to their destination. Men think they’re the most sensible sex. Women know they are.

How many men does it take to
change a roll of toilet paper?
It’s unknown. It’s never happened.

Women can’t believe men are so unobservant. Men are amazed how a woman can’t see a red flashing oil light on the dashborad but can spot a dirty sock in a dark corner 50 metres away. Women are bewildered by men who can consistently parallel park a car in a tight spot using a rear-view mirror, but can never find the G-spot.

Society today is determined to believe that men and women possess exactly the same skills, aptitudes and potentials – just as science, ironically, is beginning to prove they are completely different.

And where does this leave us? As a society, on extremely shaky ground. It’s only by understanding the differences between men and women that we can really start building on our collective strengths – rather than on our individual weaknesses. Enormous advances have been made in human evolutionary science and in this book we show how the lessons learned – when applied to male and female relationships – can give us all a solid and thorough understanding of the many strange things that happen between men and women…

This book is dedicated to all the men and women who have ever sat up at 2am pulling their hair out as they plead with their partners, “But why don’t you understand?” Relationships fail because men still don’t understand why a woman can’t be more like a man, and women expect their men to behave just like they do. Not only will this book help you come to grips with the opposite sex, it’ll help you understand yourself. And how you can both lead happier, healthier and more harmonious lives as a result, leading to relationships that can be fulfilling, enjoyable and satisfying.

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Why Men Can Only Do One Thing at a Time and Women Never Stop Talking by Allan & Barbara Pease, 2003

Hey, it’s me…

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This is the part where I introduce myself… I am a woman, a daughter, a wife, a mother, a best friend (or a worst enemy), a budding businesswoman, a handicraft maker, and a newbie blogger.

I have always tried to make my own web blog but time and concentration eludes me… I was once a poetic writer and a short novelist… once was a playwright in my younger years…

I have an eye for second chances… I like recycling things, I can always see a better use and know what to do with any thing that’s been lying around for how long or for things that I just saw from a distance… I just didn’t have enough time to make a move or finish any project which resulted of me being a pack-rat… Even for things that people may call “garbage”, for me it’s something new and challenging….

I have a gift of always seeing people for who they are even on the first meeting, of how people talk about them or with them, of how they give their opinions on certain aspects, and of how they walk, talk and act… I’m not a psychic and I’m not judgmental but… of what I know about the character of a certain person is, I’m usually right, most of the time…

I’m a listener, and sometimes an adviser… my family, friends or even just acquaintances come knocking at my door or calling me on the phone just to make a vent about anything or everything around them… I don’t mind listening, I learn a lot just by doing it… people had been around me for so many years, some just come and go and some are here to stay, and by them I have learned lots of things that you will never read from any self-help books…

I’m a survivor… I have had my own battles in life… some I emerged victorious, some I became a loser, some I just have to let go… In my own perception, nothing can shock me, for I have witnessed tragedies and heartaches that made me strong enough to make a stand and fight…

I’m a lover… I love all things that are beautiful and relaxing… I love nature, the sound of water streaming down the river, birds singing, cool winds blowing and the cozy feeling of watching the different colors of the sunset… I love eating, my comfort foods that can take me back to my childhood years and to the sweet and amazing moments that I’ve had in my life… These simple things can make my life easier even when I’m in the middle of a dark and lonely road…

Hey, it’s me… accept me for what I am and not for what you want me to be…