To those who are intrigued on what is inside this great book, I’m posting here some of the excerpts of Chapter One. I just hope I’m not gonna be sued! It’s just that I want to share this to all who can’t buy a copy of the book! (hehehe…nagmamakaaawa na agad!) 😀
Oh well, you can search for this book in Amazon.com, I think they have a copy of this book, don’t know how much is the price, though! 😉
CHAPTER ONE, SAME SPECIES…DIFFERENT WORLD
In the beginning….
Women gathered. Women nurtured.
Things were simple: he was the lunch-chase, she was the nest-defender. the woman’s role was clear. Being the child-bearer, her skills became specialized to meet that role. She needed to be able to monitor her surroundings for signs of danger, have excellent short-range navigational skills using landmarks to find her way, and have a highly-tuned ability to sense small changes in th behavior and appearance of children and adults.
Her success was measured by her ability to sustain family life. Her self-worth came from the man’s appreciation of her home-making and nurturing skills. She was never expected to hunt animals, fight enemies or change light bulbs.
Men hunted. Men protected.
Man’s job description was straightforward: he was a lunch-chaser, and that’s all anyone expected of him. He would venture out each day into a hostile and dangerous world to risk his life as a hunter to bring food back to his woman and their children and he would defend them against savage animals or enemies. He developed long-distance navigational skills so he could locate food and bring it home, and excellent marksmanship skills so that he could hit a moving target.
His success as a man was measured by his ability to make a kill ang bring it home, and his self-worth was measured by her appreciation fo rhis struggle and effort.
There was never any need for him to ‘analyze the relationship’ and he wasn’t expected to put out the garbage or help change the nappies.
Women are naturally intuitive.
Women are equipped with far more finely-tuned sensory skills than men. As child-bearers and nest-defenders, they needed the ability to sense subtle mood and attitude changes in others that could signal pain, hunger, injury, aggression or depression. This is commonly called “women’s intuition”.
Women’s intuition is something that has always bewildered men who play around – and are invariably caught.
Skit: “My wife can see a blonde hair on my coat from twenty feet, but she hits the garage door when she parks the car.”
A Man would have to witness tears, a temper tantrum or be slapped around the face before he’d have a clue anything was going on.
Males, being lunch-chasers, were never around the cave long enough to learn to read non-verbal signals or the ways of interpersonal communication.
Brain scan tests show that when a man’s brain is in a resting state, at least 70% of its electrical activity is shut down. Scans of women’s brains show a level 90% activity during the same state, confirming that women are constantly receiving and analyzing information from their environment. A woman knows her children’s friends, hopes, dreams, romances, secret fears, what are they thinking, how they are feeling and, usually, what mischief they are plotting. Men are vaguely aware of some short people also living in the house.
Sex researchers report that women look at men’s bodies as much as, and usually more than men look at women’s. Women have a greater variety of cones in the retina of the eye – allowing them to describe colors in greater detail – and also have wider peripheral vision than men. As a nest-defender, a woman has brain software that allows her to receive an arc of at least 45degree clear vision to each side of her head and above and below her nose. Some women’s peripheral vision is effective up to almost 180degrees.
Men literally have ‘tunnel vision’. That’s why they’re always so obvious when they look at other women. They have to turn their heads.
A man’s eyes are larger than a woman’s and his brain configure them for a type of long-distance tunnel vision which means that he can see clearly and accurately directly in front of him, though over much narrower field and over greater distances, almost like a pair of binoculars.
Women are more sensitive to differentiating tone changes, voice volume and pitch. This enables them to hear emotional changes in children and adults. This ability goes a long way to explaining the women’s phrase, “Don’t use that tone of voice with me!”, when arguing with men and boys. Most males don’t have a clue what she’s talking about.
Female hearing advantage contributes significantly to what is called “Women’s Intuition” and is one of the reasons why a woman can read between the lines of what people say.
In a room of fifty couples it takes the average woman less than ten minutes to have analyzed the relationship between each couple in the room. She can see who’s who, what’s what and how they’re all feeling.
Men, er, can’t
Men, however, shouldn’t despair. They are excellent at identifying and imitating animal sounds, which would have been a significant advantage for the ancient hunter.
Sadly, there’s not much call for this skill these days.
Boys are often chastised by ‘grown-ups’ for not listening. But as boys grow, particularly at puberty, their ear canals undergo growth spurts that can cause temporary deafness. Boys are equipped for more effective seeing than hearing. Female teachers have been found to reprimand girls differently to boys and seem intuitively to understand male and female hearing differences.
Female teachers continue to reprimand girls even if eye contact is lost. If a boy refuses eye contact, many female teachers intuitively understand that he probably either can’t hear or is not listening, and will say, “Look at me when I speak to you.”
It’s not that men are insensitive to the small details. Their brains just aren’t organized to pick up the non-verbal signals that allow women to notice small details and changes in the appearance of others.
Research reveals that, in face-to-face communications, non-verbal signs account for 60-80% of the impact of the message, while vocal sounds and words account for the balance. A woman’s superior sensory equipment picks up and analyzes this information and her brain’s ability to rapidly transfer between hemispheres makes her more proficient at integrating and deciphering verbal, visual and other signals.
In other words, she can spot a fibber a mile off.
This is why most men have difficulty lying to a woman face-to-face.
Men can’t fib their way out of a paper-bag
As most women know, lying to a man face-to-face is comparatively easy, as he does not have the necessary sensitivity to spot incongruities between her verbal and non-verbal signals.
Most men, if they’re going to lie to a woman, would be far better off doing it over the phone, in a letter or with all the lights off, and a blanket over their head.